I didn't date for a long time — far longer than [I think] is considered usual or acceptable amongst teenagers and twentysomethings. I guess it would've been nice to have company at all those miserable, Katy-Perry-fueled homecoming dances or yes, the prom.
It wasn't that I was fat, or horribly concerned with how a boy would perceive that fatness.It was more that I was taught that a woman (especially a fuller-figured and tall woman) must only date a man who was even more fuller-figured and taller than she was.To them, it didn't matter that he was intelligent or loving or good; it just mattered that I would be the one carrying my boyfriend over the threshold someday. Logic and love prevailed over sizeism and antiquated gender roles! To see a larger woman with a smaller (be it shorter or skinnier) man just isn't the norm (unless the woman is a tall and statuesque model — then it's OK).I started to see our size difference as funny and cute. So in the course of these three years, here are some things I've heard and been asked.You used to love being a tall, sexy woman, but now it just feels like a problem over which you have zero control.
Your internalization of the patriarchy makes you question why you’re dating him. You feel insecure about it, and that makes you feel like a huge dick.Forget tall, dark and handsome - a major dating site says the ideal man is short, dark and pudgy, but we're not convinced.According to a new study by - which analysed the profiles of millions of members - women generally fancy short men.When I say "short," I’m talking like 5’7" and under. He may have a beautiful face, killer abs and a stellar personality, but all you or anyone else can seem to focus on is that your boo is a tiny little munchkin. I’m not wearing heels so I can be a solid 5 inches taller than you (and that’s in kitten heels)." When you do wear heels, he immediately realizes the error of his ways.These days, I love being the big spoon in the relationship and feeling like I am Paddy's teddy bear. This one tends to come from women who are actually quite strong, feminist role models and personal inspirations of my own.