I’m sorry, but those actions are a huge indicator that they’re capable of cheating.You should be the one they’re making laugh and feel giddy about.They’re not, and you deserve to be valued and respected. If they constantly mention an ex-girlfriend or boyfriend, then they’re not over them and they won’t able to love you fully.
But suddenly I feel lost on the girls’ brunch staple: Instead of consulting Urban Dictionary, I asked Facebook and Twitter. I considered standing on a street corner and asking NYC strangers but a blizzard made me scrap that idea. I certainly think of DATING and SEEING as different in my mind. The conclusion of my (extremely) limited study (“study”) was a shockingly even divide between the two camps. Or maybe I’ll just slip on some elbow length gloves every time I sit down to blog, and tell you I’m not old-fashioned. Which one do you think is less casual: “Dating” or “Seeing”?
It’s reached the point where I’ll mention him to my friends, the dude’s got potential. Like the difference between the B and D train: one easily gets you to the American Museum of Natural History, the other zooms you up to 125th leaving you wondering what the hell you did wrong and OMG am I in Harlem!? Annnnnd….a lot of other people think the exact opposite… “Seeing” can be applied to your friend with benefits, your ex, and tonight’s Bumble date. Maybe I need to change my wording when I write about dating, since I frequently do…
Turns out we have polar opposite views on these two confounding words. The explanation for this dating/seeing confusion, as I see it, seems to lie in the biggest scapegoat of modern romance: Hookup Culture.
He thinks we’re seeing each other, I think we’re dating: Communication Fail. We’re both on the same page, just uh, looking at different words? So I gave this stupid syntax wayyyyy more thought than it ever deserved.
Included in the number who totally disagree is the guy I’m dating/seeing. Do you think my point of view on this is dated (pun intended) and I should change it to reflect dating in this app area?
Yes, I told him I was writing this post and asked his thoughts. Or tell me potato, patahto- let’s call the whole thing off!
You deserve someone that makes room for you in their life.
You don’t have to consume their life, but you need to be a big part of it.
Recently I realized I don’t even know how to talk about potential fellas to my ! Things are going well, but it’s still new, still casual. Turns out a lot of people agree with my take on these two words! Put it together and POOF the word “dating” elevates to a greater level of seriousness. I might feel a little old-fashioned in my DATING vs SEEING beliefs.
As if labels with a romantic interest aren’t difficult enough already! As a 30-year-old blogger who’s watched too many episodes of Sex and the City….
A classic example of this is if they’re always happy to go out drinking with their friends, but they get mad when you do the same. They fail at something, but somehow, you’re the one apologizing for it.