He writes: “Created to flourish, we experience nagging despair.Made to receive and give joy, we battle cynicism and resignation. The second chapter of part one lifts up this need for perfection that often drives us to despair and exhaustion.
While we all seem to want to pursue self-improvement, he suggests we abandon the quest as a fool’s errand.From this poetic awakening, De Groat moves on to address the question of holiness.That is important because we all struggle with our divided selves! Thus, I recommend Chuck De Groat's Wholeheartedness highly!The story is told, perhaps it’s apocryphal, that my grandmother spotted me preaching in my crib, and she told my mother that I would grow up to be a preacher.The first step (first chapter of chapter three) is to return to our true self, our core being.
That means finding ways to look inside, and one of those ways is contemplative prayer (I must again admit my struggles to engage in true contemplative prayer—probably because remain too divided).Part of that is my own failure to set boundaries and say no when necessary.But again, I doubt that I’m all that different from many others, including members of my own congregation. Some would say, get some rest, but is that possible and is that the solution?But “self-compassion” speaks to a different sense of identity.In this section De Groat draws on the principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS).Thus, we discover the antidote to exhaustion, and that’s to be found in wholeheartedness, which is participating “in the life of God, or the only whole human being who has ever walked on earth—Jesus” (p. When we reach part three we have examined the challenges to wholeheartedness and have discovered models of wholeness. While we tend to look for quick fixes, none are to be found.