As a nation we’re quite literally ‘spoilt for choice’.
Sounds like you're trying to convince yourself not to feel guilty about being tied to the bed, with nipple clamps, a ball gag and prodded with a taser in all the right places. just make sure he doesn't set the voltage too high, it might result in an unwanted hairstyle. A natural "Dom" doesnt have to tell you..a "natural" subbie doesnt have to. All I know is that if a woman wants to be dominated I'll be happy to tie her to the bed and have rough sex with her and every penetratable opening in her body, but she's gotta look good with a ball gag in her mouth and she's gotta thrash against the ropes like she really wants to get free. Once the handcuffs are on, we are not done until I say so. I'm thinking you are confusing BDSM with only hard core S&M, and there is a whole lot more to it than that.
That would put all sexual experiences in to one category which is a natural reaction from someone who has not experienced anything first hand. However, none of the things that you listed above is part of my sex life. WHY would you need to just hint around about it here in this world? There are are many different styles out there, like there are stars in the sky.
A man who makes most or all of the decisions in your relationship, including where to go and when? What is telling is that someone tried to have this thread auto-deleted. I would say there is someone out there that wants to be "dominant" but doesn'twant to talk about it. Are you asking is there more to your vanilla life for a man to see other than work, kids and social events? Otherwise, I don't understand what you're getting at..would like to help. Yes, how do you approach the subject when dating that you are looking for a Dominant man that is NOT into BDSM? All these kind of things are on the two sites I mentioned where you fill out your profile explaining what youre looking for in a relationship. Most of D/s relationships have to do with the "natural" order where the man leads and the woman follows. Not everyone is dressed in gothic black with spiked hair. open your front door and look left, right, and straight ahead. you just can't be coy about what you are looking for and expect the whole world to understand what you want.
A man who tells you what he expects in the bedroom? Are you asking how do you find a Dom that isnt into hardcore BDSM ? The BDSM world is not all that people would like to think by what they research. However, I like to be submissive in a relationship and within my sexual relationship staying in the set boundaries that we have agreed upon. Im confused still somewhat because on one hand you dont want BDSM yet you want a D/s??
Unless you are in to BDSM you will not find a community of Alpha's unless you are aware of somewhere that I am not here in Atlanta, Ga?
I will say this, it was, and Im sure still is very erotic to connect with someone who is on the same wave length.The internet may have revolutionised age-old rituals of courtship and created an entirely new etiquette for online dating, but just because you’re sat behind a computer, doesn’t mean you should abandon them altogether.Dating etiquette still applies online so in order to succeed, here are some basic principles that must still be adhered to.With so many online dating sites out there it can be hard deciding which site is the right one for you.Here at Independent Dating we know how important it is to meet someone who is on your wave-length and that’s exactly why we offer a service that is dedicated to helping like-minded singles to connect.lol Did you google that and go to the hardcore extreme? Altho this is a good site its not really geared toward D/s. OP, if you are asking if there is such as thing as a Dominant male who is not into "hardcore" BDSM, the answer is yes. I agree with everything Sugah Punkin said, and I'm still confused. Just because someone "looks" nilla doesnt mean they are. Id like to find a man that is strong enough to lead my lil world and and knows when to spank my bottom and pat my head and tell me when Im a good girl. Be honest with the gentlemen you are meeting that you want them to lead the relationship and you will abide by their decisions.