I can remember the anticipation I felt waiting for texts back from the man I would eventually marry, before the three bouncing dots, read receipts, and sending screenshots to friends were even a thing.Maybe I’d forward a text or two of his to a friend, followed with “What could this mean??
It is critical to be aware of the individual playing the mind game and equally vital to understand the context in which that person plays.Finally, how you normally react to these games is crucial in understanding how to deal with them in the future.First, understand that the purpose for a colleague or coworker playing a mind game is distinguishably different from your partner or family member playing a mind game.Learning the multifaceted nature of mind games will better equip you to deal with the extremely complex and mostly illogical reason for such games.After all, by beating a successful and confident person doesn’t that make them successful as well?
Relationships: Within relationships, mind games can be many times more complex and devious.In these questions, there is an avoidance of direct expression of one’s interest (or lack thereof) in another person.With the spirit of hookup culture—play it cool—guiding texting behavior, no one wants to be the first to express interest, state preferences, or communicate needs.Taking that risk can be scary, especially in a dating environment where it’s not cool to care. Our shying away from discomfort means shutting out other opportunities that come with it.There’s discomfort on all sides, whether you are making the first move, waiting for a reply, responding, or directly saying “no thanks.” When the other person is not physically present, it’s easier to do nothing rather than face the discomfort of communicating interest, letting someone down, or breaking the rules of the game. Perhaps what is missed is a night out with a person you’d genuinely like to get to know.Security is established when we build trust with our partners, through consistent communication patterns, validation, and emotional availability.