Now in America and in the UK, jealousy is a green monster that most people have a strong distaste for.
Here in Turkey, if you are not jealous of whom your partner speaks to, looks at, or hangs out with, it is the equivalent of raising a small flag that states, “I don’t love him/her.” It also doesn’t matter how many times you try and explain the cultural difference—they won’t change their minds.
The personality traits of a gentleman, smooth talker, romantic, and extreme flirt are all wrapped together to give you the typical Turkish man.
At first encounter you will be charmed, wooed, and certainly enchanted by his “going-out-of-their-way” hospitality and attention. Some men have ulterior motives, and some will definitely get you into trouble.
I’m also not trying to create a stereotype about typical Turkish men.
These are simply my experiences in my small city outside of Istanbul.
Soon they will find another girl and/or you will begin dating someone, which will turn them away because…
This does not solely go for Turkish men; this is true for men and women here.
Here it is all about being continually conscious about what others are thinking, both if they see you alone with someone, or if a guy is asking you to hang out.
At the same time, typical Turkish men are not always to blame.
Once they’ve been shot down they don’t attempt again.
The only way to deal with Turkish men’s persistence is to grin and bear it.
I didn’t date much in high school or at university, and I wasn’t given much attention by men. I am a self-proclaimed bookworm and nerd to the core, so nothing could keep me from the gorgeous university libraries or research lounges.