It may sound cliché and completely unmasculine, but in Asian culture, the men are raised to always offer comfort for the female, making sure that they are provided and cared for. They might steal a kiss or two when no one’s looking, but in retrospect the Asian male would much rather prefer it behind closed doors.
And because of this, sometimes, there is some truth to the cultural differences of people raised with diverse upbringings. When the dinner cheque arrives at the table, the Asian guy will swoop in like a properly trained ninja and attack the dinner cheque before you can even do that “reach” for your wallet. When it comes to alcohol consumption, according to research, the ‘Asian Flush’ occurs due to a deficiency in an enzyme called aldehyde dehydrogenase, which is part of a vital process that digests alcohol.
So I’m here today to dispel (or confirm) some of those myths, but only according to my own experience. This swift technique is an ancient move passed on by his ancestors – a learned behavior through many many years watching his parents challenge their opponents to who gets to the cheque first. Headache, red flushing, even itchiness will occur after a few sips of alcohol. Many asians brought up in a traditional upbringing (both men and women) choose to live at home with their parents until they get married.
Multiple articles and studies discuss how cultural stereotypes of Asian men may make them less attractive to women of all races, including Asians. On another website, one Asian male expresses: “It’s definitely harder for an Asian male to date a white female than for Asian females to date white males.
In the book Freakonomics, one study showed that single Asians (male) had to make 7,000 more annually to receive the same response rate as White men on online dating sites. Asian males are not portrayed as masculine, whereas Asian females are stereotyped as submissive, exotic.” What gives?!
It’s not rare for Asian kids to grow up on the receiving end of dictator-esque verbal instructions and scoldings.
Parents educate and try to push their children to work harder and achieve more by using negative language versus complimentary language.
The good news for Asian males is that as online dating is becoming less and less taboo, there are a lot more asian dating sites ready to help make meeting potential matches easier.
White, black, yellow – really, one’s ethnicity shouldn’t make a difference as we are all part of the human race. However, keep in mind that there are certain cultural differences that come to play that shape a person’s mentality, values, ideas of what a relationship dynamic should look like, and subsequently, their behaviour.
We hit it off right away and during the first few weeks, he seemed super into me.
At first, I thought he was just trying to end things, but then from time to time, he’ll text me something really sweet, like about how much he wants to see me, or that he’s been thinking about me, so obviously, he’s still interested or why would he do that?
Because this is engrained at such an early age, this may cause some Asian men to continue withholding emotion as they grow up.