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The aspects of autism that can make everyday life challenging—reading social cues, understanding another's perspectives, making small talk and exchanging niceties—can be seriously magnified when it comes to dating.Though the American Psychiatric Association defines autism as a spectrum disorder—some people do not speak at all and have disabilities that make traditional relationships (let alone romantic ones) largely unfeasible, but there are also many who are on the "high-functioning" end and do have a clear desire for dating and romance.Whereas the two people on the spectrum would get each other." Thomas had some final dating advice for anyone on the spectrum: "If you really like someone, don’t try and shove every little bit of you into the first conversation you have with them.Relax, understand that they’re a person just like you, they’re not greater than you, they’re not less than you." For more information on autism you can visit Autism Spectrum Australia.Ruby is on the autism spectrum and told that communication can be really hard and you often assume that people see things the same way you do - even when they don't."It could be that I have a conversation with someone that I think went really well, and then I hear that they were really upset or they don’t talk to me," she said."Especially when I was a teenager, I’d think that I was establishing a friendship, and then I would never hear from them again, and I wouldn’t understand what had happened." Autism is neurodevelopmental condition that affects the way that people interact with other people and their environment and affects about 1 in 150 people.
The autism spectrum includes people with Asperger's, and is referred to as a spectrum because people have different levels of severity and may need different levels of support.
People who are not on the spectrum are referred to as neurotypicals.
Thomas Kuzma is an ambassador for Autism Spectrum Australia and said it was really important for people with autism to be engaged with neurotypicals as people on the autism spectrum often learn behaviours by studying other people.
it will give you some steps to help you understand why, and how you can work around those things if you want, or things that you don’t want to pursue anymore because it will continue to be difficult for you," she said.
Romana said relationships can work, but there does need to be a lot of education around what the autism spectrum is and how it affects a relationship. "I think that if a partner is not aware of the other partner’s condition, it's hard because sometimes those behaviours come across as being rude or 'I don’t really care'.
It might be hard at times, but you'll become better off." Ruby explained that people with autism aren't really great with unexpected turns of events or things that break routine really quickly, which can make meeting new people challenging.